Sunday Book Review: Anxiety the missing stage of grief, by Claire Bidwell-Smith

It's not the NYT, but it IS Sunday, and this IS a book review, so as Benny would say:"it's not false advertising if I think it's true, Freddy!"A few months ago Claire Bidwell Smith sent me a copy of her latest book -- Anxiety: the missing stage of grief. Full disclosure: I’ve never met Claire, but …

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Tae Kwon Do or Tae Kwon Don’t, either way you’ll regret it.

Last night the boys had Tae Kwon Do testing. They’re now the proud owners of a green belt with a blue stripe. Although their master during the belt ceremony reminded all the kids not to focus on the belt but on the discipline and hard work of learning their techniques, let’s be serious, the very …

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Only the lonely (need to read this post, and maybe not even them?)

 To be grown up is to sit at the table with people who have died,who neither listen nor speak;Who do not drink their tea, though they always saidTea was such a comfort.From Childhood is the Kingdom Where Nobody Dies, by Edna St. Vincent MillayLoneliness isn’t actually a disease. I checked the DSM-V. But it’s got …

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Relatively speaking about grief (and other mistakes I’ve made).

Relativism is not a helpful mode for grieving. By nature it has no fixed position, which is problematic when someone’s already adrift because one of the central fixed points of their life – a loved one -- is gone. Bare relativism isn’t that helpful generally: how many idiotic conversations have been started in college classrooms …

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Concentricity, grief, and the spider’s web

"the possible settingsof a web are infinite:how doesthe spider keepidentitywhile creating the webin a particular place?how and to what extentand by what modes of chemistryand control?it iswonderfulhow things work: I will tell youabout itbecauseit is interestingand because whatever ismoves in weedsand stars and spider websand knownis loved:in that love,each of us knowing it,I love you,for …

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