When Nina and I were married (which, I guess in some metaphysical sense we still are? But death legally terminates marriage, so I feel like I ought to use the past tense? Widowhood is weird?), I used to like to buy her anniversary gifts based on the "traditional" list of materials that runs from Paper …
Month: November 2018

It’s the Narrative, Stupid (Cancer)
Participating in The Atlantic's People v. Cancer got me thinking about mortality and survival and the cancer narrative that includes them both.
The Hunt for Red Faced Self-Forgiveness
The other night the boys and I watched The Hunt for Red October. What could be better than movie night on a rainy November Friday? We took a circuitous approach to the boys’ introduction to the Jack Ryan saga. First, I fell asleep at about 6:40 pm. I ordered Chinese takeout, we ate, I cleaned …
Sunday Book Review: Anxiety the missing stage of grief, by Claire Bidwell-Smith
It's not the NYT, but it IS Sunday, and this IS a book review, so as Benny would say:"it's not false advertising if I think it's true, Freddy!"A few months ago Claire Bidwell Smith sent me a copy of her latest book -- Anxiety: the missing stage of grief. Full disclosure: I’ve never met Claire, but …
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